The Philosophy: Why Naming the Abuse Matters
Growing up with a narcissistic father in California, Eleanor Voss spent two decades believing that she was the broken one. The emotional outbursts, the sudden silent treatments, and the calculated criticisms left her feeling constantly disoriented. When she arrived during her academic studies in psychology at age 20 to study psychology, a single textbook chapter gave identity to 20 years of unexplained chaos: narcissistic abuse.
"You cannot heal from an enemy you cannot name," says Eleanor. After earning her Psychology degree from her university program at 24 (2002) and spending over twenty years in clinical trauma work, Eleanor launched the Your Chaos Has a Name series at age 44 to ensure no one has to navigate the maze in silence.
“The Mother Wound” — Book 3 of the Series
In this volume, Eleanor Voss explores the nuanced, deeply rooted trauma of growing up with an emotionally immature, narcissistic, or self-absorbed mother. Drawing from both clinical practice and personal healing, this book unlocks the guilt, enmeshment, and hyper-responsibility adult children carry.
“Understanding maternal narcissism was the final piece of my puzzle. It set me completely free.”
— Eleanor Voss, 48 ·
The 4 Books in Order
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
The essential foundational handbook. Unpack gaslighting, covert narcissism, projection, flying monkeys, and the cycle of devaluation. Designed to pull readers out of cognitive dissonance.
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Breaking the Trauma Bond
The neuroscience of why leaving is so agonizingly hard. Explores dopamine-cortisol addiction loops in toxic relationships, somatic detox methods, and complete No Contact execution.
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The Mother Wound
Healing from a narcissistic, emotionally immature, or self-absorbed mother. Untangle generational enmeshment, drop the compulsive need to please, and build internal boundaries.
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Divorcing a Narcissist & High-Conflict Custody
A survival manual for court battles, smear campaigns, post-separation financial abuse, and parallel parenting protocols that preserve children's safety and your sanity.
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