Narcissistic Mother Wound Assessment (NMWA-15)

Did your mother treat you as an extension of herself rather than an independent person with your own identity?

Was her affection and praise strictly conditional—granted when you succeeded or obeyed, and revoked when you differentiated?

Did she compete with you, act jealous of your achievements, appearance, or romantic relationships?

Did she use guilt, tears, or manufactured illness to manipulate you into prioritizing her demands over your life?

Did she share inappropriate adult personal problems with you when you were a child (emotional parentification)?

Did she pit you against your siblings, assigning one as the Golden Child and another as the Scapegoat?

Does she dismiss or minimize your boundaries, claiming that 'a good daughter/son would never treat their mother this way'?

Do you feel intense anxiety, dread, or physical tension before receiving a phone call or visit from her?

Does she play the martyr, reminding you endlessly of the sacrifices she made to raise you?

Did she criticize your appearance, weight, or personal choices under the guise of 'just trying to help you'?

Does she project an image of the saintly, selfless mother to extended family and outsiders while being cold at home?

Do you struggle with deep-seated unworthiness, chronic perfectionism, or feeling like you are never 'good enough'?

Does she rewrite family history, denying past neglect or emotional abuse that you vividly remember?

Do you feel responsible for her happiness, loneliness, or emotional stability as an adult?

Do you find yourself hesitating to make major life choices because you dread her disapproval, drama, or silent rage?