Covert Narcissist Screening Inventory (CNSI-15)

Do they frequently portray themselves as the misunderstood victim in virtually every past relationship or conflict?

Do they use subtle, passive-aggressive remarks or backhanded compliments that leave you feeling diminished?

When you express hurt or a legitimate grievance, do they reverse it so that you end up comforting them?

Do they punish you with cold withdrawal, heavy sighs, or prolonged silent treatment rather than open communication?

Do they exhibit an underlying sense of moral superiority or secret intellectual entitlement despite quiet behavior?

Do they subtly dismiss your achievements or change the subject whenever you celebrate a personal victory?

Do they practice weaponized helplessness—failing basic tasks so that you are forced to manage their responsibilities?

Do they hold long, silent grudges over minor perceived slights from years ago?

Are they intensely hypersensitive to even the mildest constructive feedback or polite disagreement?

Do they subtly triangulate you with ex-partners, friends, or family members to manufacture jealousy or insecurity?

Do they project an image of humility, generosity, or deep spiritual sensitivity in public while remaining cold at home?

Do you leave conversations with them feeling confused, emotionally drained, and doubting your own sanity?

Do they rarely or never offer a genuine, unforced apology without attaching a conditional excuse?

Do they covertly compete with you, your career, or your relationships with your children or friends?

Do you feel like you are constantly managing their fragile ego while your own emotional needs are completely invisible?